When A Relationship Is Worth Saving
There are times in dating when it is time to find someone else and there are times when a relationship is worth saving. You have been seeing someone and issues arise. Maybe you had a fight. Maybe he or she does something that annoys you. Any number of issues can arise. Success is in knowing when a relationship is worth saving. Here are a few suggestions that might help you decide.
- Are You Having Fun Dating This Man Or Woman? Does this man or woman put a spring in your step? Do you think of him or her all day long? Do you have a good time when you are together? Dating is supposed to be enjoyable. If the problem is easy address and solve, or live with, it may not be worth it to break up. But, if you are not having a good time with this person when all are you are doing is dating, what will happen later? When you move in together, get married, have children, and work two jobs it is stressful for the best and strongest of relationships. If dating this person seems like work it will only get worse later on. When a relationship is worth saving is when thinking of him or her always makes you smile.
- Do You Like Yourself When You Are With This Person? If you are dating a happy, funny, and supportive person who believes in himself or herself and believes in you that is a person you probably want to spend your life with. We all need to be loved and cared about. When we are in a relationship with someone who is verbally or physically abusive it takes a terrible toll on our self-esteem. When a relationship is worth saving is when being with that person makes you a better and happier person, not when the person frightens you makes you hate yourself.
- Do Not Settle For Less, Or Demand More, Than You Deserve. This does not have to do with marrying a guy who drives a Ferrari or a girl whose daddy is a billionaire. We all deserve to be loved and cared for. We all deserve a little fun and we all deserve a life that, despite the bumps along the way, is manageable and satisfying. A relationship and then marriage with the right person can help make that happen. Think about what you expect of life and of a relationship. If your expectations are unreasonably high you will probably be frustrated along the way and may dump the man or woman of your dreams because they do not measure up. Set your expectations too low and you will fall for the first person who pays any attention to you. Then you will be tied up in a difficult relationship just as the man or woman of your dreams walks into your life.
When a relationship is worth saving is usually when that person fits into the broad scope of what you would like and are willing to work for in your life. If you want to have six children do not marry a man or woman who does not like kids. If you love to travel find someone to travel with and do not marry someone who never leaves the sofa in front of the TV set. If you want wealth find someone equally ambitious and if you want to wake up happy every morning find someone who thinks you are the best thing in his or her life.