You have been dating a guy and like him. You can see your way towards being in love but how about him. How to know if he loves you too is important if you want to take the relationship to the next step. The problem is that we often do not know what love ought to look like and feel. Because too much of our information comes from movies, TV, and bodice-ripping romance novels, our ideas about love are wrong. Here are a few useful tips.

What Is Love?

Romantic love is an infatuation that lasts. We can feel passionate about someone for a short time which can lead to things like love at first sight or even sex on the first date. But, when we find out that we have very little in common except that first sexual attraction, our infatuation can turn to disappointment and breaking up or acceptance of an unhappy relationship. The love that makes a long term relationship work certainly includes romantic love over the years but there is more. When you want to know if he loves you in a way that will make for a lifetime of happiness, you need to know what clues to look

How to Know if He Loves You

First of all, if you find yourself constantly trying to decide if he loves you or not, it may be a matter of your own insecurity or his indifference. Very often one leads to the other. Here are a few clues that can help.

He Looks at You “That Way”

When he is in love with you, there will be a look of desire mixed with a calm and appreciation. That tells you he is interested in you and truly appreciates all that you are. He may or may not tell how unique he believes you are or how lucky he is to know you and to love you. This “look” should go with kindness, thoughtfulness, and attentiveness.

He Gives You Things As Well

The “look” is a good sign that he loves you but you want to see that combined with a bit of generosity. Certainly, if neither of you has a lot of money, you may be invited out on a cheap first date. But, you will be able to tell if he is always thinking of you and likes to give you things because he loves you. Beware, however of men who believe that by giving you things they can buy their way into a romance that has no real love. A good way to make certain that giving is caused by love is when it goes with attention and caring.

You Are a Priority in His Life

When you find that you are scheduled into his life of friends, distractions, and entertainment, you are not a priority. When he wants to spend as much time with you as the two of you are able, you have become a priority and one way how to know if he loves you.

He Wants to Know What You Think and Feel

When the man in your life has that look, gives you things, and makes you a priority in his life you can also expect that he wants to know what you think and feel. Good communication goes with successful long term relationships and communication based on love always goes both ways. Beware of relationships where it is all about him because that may never stop and tends to diminish the love in any relationship.

He Notices Things about You

When he loves you and cares about you, he pays attention to how you look, what you do, and how you feel. This always goes with making you a priority and wanting to know you better. It is a good way to know if he loves you. It is also an excellent way to know how well the two of you fit together aside from the romantic side of things.

There are other cues like the fact that he thinks about you a lot and misses you when the two of you are apart. Taking you to meet his family is a sign that he is getting serious but this needs to go with the rest of the package.