You have met someone that you really like. You had a really nice first date. And you want to keep this person in your life. So, how far do you go on a second date? We recently asked if you have to kiss on a second date. The same thinking regarding kissing on the second date applies to the rest.

If you are a 37 year old widow who is going out on a second date with a man whom you have known and like a lot a little kiss or two or three might be just the right thing. On the other hand if you are a 15 year old girl going out with an 18 year old boy there is the risk of things getting out of hand. The 37 year old widow will have arranged for a baby sitter, picked a seductive outfit and made sure to bring condoms. The 15 year old girl may want to wait until her new boyfriend delivers her to the front door of her home before permitting a brief kiss and then going inside.

If your goal is to have sex then you probably want more than a little romance on the second date. However, your new friend might see this as going too fast and then your advances would be a turn-off. Our advice for a hot first date applies here.

A bright smile, a suggestive glance, and revealing garments can lead the way to a hot first date. Because of the chance that the first date will be a disappointment a women may want to wear a jacket over her revealing dress. If the encounter does not promise to be a hot first the date the jacket stays in place. If things become interesting you can ask him to please help you remove your jacket with the implication that you would like him to remove what little else you are wearing as well!

Do not forget that if your wish is for a hot first date that protection is important. Bring condoms and do not expect your hot first date to take all of the precautions.

How far you go on a second date should be your choice and not an obligation. Otherwise you may be setting up a pattern that will be hard to break out of.

Whose Choice Is It?

The decision about how far to go on a second date should be mutual. Communication helps in this regard as you can say what you would like to do and not simply agree to everything that your new friend says or wants. Confidence is important in this case. Remember that you are an interesting, attractive and worthwhile person. You do not need to give away your self-esteem in order to gain love and affection. If you are interested in more romance on the second date please go for it. And if you are more interested in waiting to see how much you really like this person please have confidence in yourself and bide your time.