Do You Need a Love Retreat?
The new thing, it appears is the love retreat. We are not talking about a weekend getaway with that special someone. Rather you pay for a love retreat to sort out love and relationship issues. Do you need a love retreat? Read on and you will find out.
Love Retreats and Dating Advice
The Telegraph asks if you would spend 3000 British pounds ($4682.40) on a love retreat.
Picture the scene. A sea of women thrashing their arms about, screaming ‘yes, Yes, YES!’ as music throbs through giant speakers. It is reminiscent of clubbing back in the Nineties but we are in a bland conference room in sunny Florida, and none of these women are fueled by any sort of stimulant. This is a love retreat – and I’m smack bang in the middle of it.
It was my friend Sam’s idea to try it. “They’re the new thing,” she claimed. “I went to one last year and it sorted me out.” By this, she meant she no longer fell apart when a man didn’t text her five minutes after a date.
The bottom line appears to be:
Learn to love yourself so you can learn to love other people better.
Dating Advice from a Book
So, paying nearly $5,000 is a little steep for dating and relationship advice. An alternative is to spend a few bucks on a book that covers much of the same material and you can even re-read the good parts! The New York Times reviews Aziz Ansari’s book, Modern Romance which is about dating in the digital age.
Everyone with a cellphone and a romantic life knows how swiftly and viciously the phone can turn against you. One minute, it’s a blameless communication device; the next, it’s a toxic incubator of second-guessing and self-loathing. You think you’re a reasonable person; suddenly, you’re obsessing over how to respond properly to a 2 a.m. text from a crush whose only communication after three days of silence reads, in its entirety, “wsup.”
Aziz Ansari feels your pain. He knows how unpleasant it is to stare impotently at a screen waiting for a message that never arrives, how undignified it is to apply a French deconstructionist’s fervor to the analysis of an illiterate string of unpunctuated words. Once, he writes in his new book, “Modern Romance,” a would-be girlfriend’s failure to respond to his effortfully insouciant text sent him spinning helplessly into a “tornado of panic and hurt and anger.”
The point would seem to be that you need to learn, develop and maintain a healthy perspective about dating and relationships. If you can do that with a book then you can skip the love retreat.
Being Yourself
A bit of dating advice from Elite Daily is to be yourself and you will not need a love retreat.
I’ve always been attracted to individuality – so when I watch a woman just be herself, regardless of what that might look like, it’s usually enough.
Whether that’s from an interest standpoint, or a stylistic one, I’ll always be drawn to the woman who marches to her own tune – because nothing exudes confidence like originality.
When a women is just being herself, you can tell she’s comfortable in her own skin; enough to act as transparently as possible.
So, be you! Trust your instincts and remember that you an attractive and worthwhile person whether dating or not.