Online dating is a great option for “lonely hearts” who do not want to broadcast their single status to those around them. Prior to the technological revolution, people who wanted to find dates placed personal ads in print media such as newspapers and magazines. If someone was intrigued by your personal ad, he or she would send their photo and telephone number in a letter through the mail. It could take quite a bit of time before you received the letters. The Internet, on the other hand, allows single people to place ads and receive instant feedback. I talked to one man with spent a good part of a year on first dates with the 200 women who had replied to him, and spent the next year arranging second dates with the women he wanted to meet again. Instant feedback can eliminate common on-line dating mistakes.

Men with dating experience probably realize that women tend to lie about some details about their looks and personalities. They may not be honest about their weight, age, or how long ago their picture was taken, for example. While their intentions may not be bad, they are nevertheless misleading. One of the mistakes that people make when they are involved in online dating is spending too much time chatting on the phone. You can spend a lot of time communicating online or on the phone, but never actually meet in person. This often results in disappointment. Face to face meetings are essential to avoid the pitfall of putting too much time and energy into those who lie about themselves. You should use the phone in order to set up a face-to-face meeting, where you can then gauge the person’s honesty about their physical attributes. It’s possible that she may sound like she is a gorgeous woman on the phone, but in reality she may not be very good looking.

To avoid wasting your time on people who may not be who they say they are, chat on the phone only after you are certain that the person is who they profess to be. Schedule your meeting in a safe public location like a coffee shop. Don’t have the date last too long, and don’t arrange to meet at night. It is best to meet during the day. The most common online dating mistakes are investing money and putting trust in someone that they have never laid eyes on. A common error is to assume automatically that you will like someone that you have only hit it off with online. If you meet someone online and think you might like each other, organize a face-to-face meeting as soon as you can. Do not pursue your potential online date if they insist on chatting online or on phone first.

Meeting someone in person is vital if you want to really learn about them. In a face-to-face meeting you can gather impressions by reading the facial expressions and body language of your date, while pursuing on your dating goals. You can easily show only what you wish, play a role, and exhibit a different personality when you are online. We operate under the assumption that personal ads are completely truthful. This is one of the more common dating mistakes that you can make. The person’s online personality is probably very different from how they act in the real world. The best means of determining what a person looks like is a recent photograph. When you finally meet face-to-face, you can see how your date appears when they laugh, smile, or react with other emotions. Take my recommendation.