Are you tired of posting your resume on the internet, meeting someone and having it not work out? Perhaps you need to ask yourself the question why do I keep failing at relationships? For example, have you ever had a really Successful First Date? In our article by that title we mentioned that having a successful date starts with knowing what you want.
When you are thinking about how to have a successful first date it matters a lot whether you are just looking for a hot first date or really want to find someone with whom to start a happy relationship. A hot first date is just all about hormones. Coming on too strongly may ruin your chances of a date with a skin on skin finale. And focusing on relationships to the exclusion of sexual attraction is a losing approach if you want sexual activity and a family to be part of your life. Here are a few thoughts about what to do and what to avoid, in order to have a successful first date.
And then you may have lots of successful dates but never move on to the next step. We wrote about this in our article, Beware of Being a Dating Professional.
Much of the dating advice that we give on these pages could be learned through experience. The more times that you go out with someone the more you learn about dating. However, most people eventually find that special someone. They cease to have dates and have a relationship. So, they don’t really get to be overly skilled at dating. If you develop a professional expertise at dating it can be a problem. Beware of being a dating professional.
If things are not moving on to the next stage maybe is not that you have not met the right person but that it is all about you. What are your goals in life aside from getting laid every weekend? What makes it worthwhile to get up in the morning and keep going every day? Are you chronically depressed? Is there something in your past that doesn’t allow you to move on? If there are issues you need to deal with do so. Go to see a professional and fix what needs to get fixed so that you do not keep failing at relationships.
Poor Self Esteem
Sometimes the reason that we keep failing at relationships is because we settle for the wrong person and keep trying to fix an unfixable relationship. Years ago we wrote about how to avoid an abusive relationship.
Knowing how to avoid an abusive relationship can mean the difference between happiness and unhappiness, safety and serious bodily injury. The stabbing death of a young woman in Los Angeles, California, school cafeteria has been in the news lately. There were many cues preceding the murder of this young woman. Knowing how to avoid an abusive relationship not only helps us avoid psychological trauma but physical assault and even death. Knowing how to avoid an abusive relationship usually starts with the person’s own self esteem. When we like ourselves and feel good about ourselves we tend to avoid situations and relationships that are psychologically and physically abusive.
Start out by liking yourself and you are unlikely to end up in a series of failed abusive relationships. If you are in such a relationship get the heck out and find a life free of fear and misery.