We write a lot about how to handle a first date, how to take your time and find the right person and ways to develop and maintain a happy relationship. The question that you might ask is what is the most important thing in a relationship? Is it communication? Is it sexual compatibility? Is it that you like the same things, want the same kind of family or just what? Our suggestion is that the most important thing in a relationship is each other, the two of you.
That Special Someone
Hopefully the end result a hot first date is that you find someone that you really like, get along with and with whom you are sexually compatible. The hoped for result of good communication early in a dating relationship is that you learn about each other and find out that the two of you really seem to be meant for each other. After all the most important thing in a relationship is each other, the two of you together.
When couples come to believe that they are going to be together for the rest of their lives they start making plans. They talk about having babies and where they want to live. They talk about jobs, sharing the work at home and finances. We often note that communication leads to lasting relationships. It does so long as the communication goes both ways and helps resolve differences of opinion and helps each person get what they want and need out of the relationship. In this regard it is really important when discussing and resolving issues that the two of you keep in mind that the most important thing in the relationship is the two of you, together and not any single facet of your relationship. The sad fact of the matter is that when one person gives away too much so that the other gets what he or she wants and needs it can lead to a lot of sadness and a painful breakup.
Keeping the Romance Alive
We recently wrote about ways to bring the romance back into a relationship when the things of life have taken away your time and closeness. The main idea of that article is that the most important thing in a relationship is the two of you. Keeping that fact in mind and keeping your bond of long alive and strong does a lot to overcome any and all obstacles that life may put in your way. Keeping the romance alive reminds you just why the two of you got together in the first place.
When Tough Decisions Need to Be Made
A common situation for young people is that he has a military obligation to fulfill or one of the two of you has an opportunity to finish a university education which will lead to a good job and good future. Sometimes the hard fact of life is that one of you needs to watch the kids, work at a job that is not your first choice and keep things together while waiting for the other to accomplish the task at hand. Here is especially where both of you need to keep in mind that the most important thing in a relationship is not the job or the money but the two of you. Time cures a lot of things when the two of you are always working together and always believing that what is important is the two of you, together.