Does the whole process of online dating seem a little tedious? Have you sorted through many people who answered your resume and then gone out on a real live date that was a total failure? When that happens it means a lot of work wasted. What if you just meet up with someone without all of the fuss and see if you like them or not? That is the point of new dating apps that cut to the chase. The LA Times reports how one person got tired of doing lots of work setting up dates and finding out in a minute that they did not like the person.
If you can tell in half a minute of meeting someone whether there’s chemistry, then why not cut to the chase and just meet up? She crafted a new approach: an app where users can meet people without hassling with features on traditional online dating apps. Forget rummaging through in-depth profiles and messaging back and forth. If two people are interested in each other, they’re going on a date. Tell the app when you’re available, and it’ll tell you when and where you’re meeting.
This approach to online dating may seem brazen, but an increasing number of apps are heading in a similar direction in a bid to carve out their own piece of the online dating pie, which was worth more than $2 billion as of 2014 and growing at 5% each year. The days of essay-length profile pages and months of back and forth messaging are numbered. At least that’s what the developers of the new dating apps are counting on.
What are the pros and cons to this approach?
Similar To Speed Dating
This sort of approach reminds us of speed dating. You meet face to face without a lot of prep time and decide quickly if you are interested in more.
Speed dating events that are sponsored by religious or social organizations are commonly free. Other speed dating events may require payment in order to attend. The obvious advantage of speed dating is meeting a large number of persons who also wish to meet someone. An obvious disadvantage is that someone who looks good in a three minute chat may not turn out to be the best choice in the long run. These events are usually in a setting where one can hear what the other person has to say, unlike meeting in a bar. It is also a setting where participants need to have something to say if they want the other person to offer their contact information.
The advantage of many speed dating events is that the people you have met are already sorted for you. Nevertheless you need to have something to say or you are wasting your time. This is the same with the news dating apps that cut to the chase. You need to think of what to say before you get there or you are wasting your time.
What To Beware Of
One of the advantages of the slower approach of traditional online dating is that you net to know the person via online chatting, emails or phone calls before you meet for a date. This gives you a little time to plan for a successful first date.
When you are thinking about how to have a successful first date it matters a lot whether you are just looking for a hot first date or really want to find someone with whom to start a happy relationship. A hot first date is just all about hormones. Coming on too strongly may ruin your chances of a date with a skin on skin finale. And focusing on relationships to the exclusion of sexual attraction is a losing approach if you want sexual activity and a family to be part of your life.
If you take the traditional approach or use one of the new dating apps that cut to the chase make sure to meet in a public place and know what you are going to do if the situation becomes uncomfortable so that you can leave promptly or what you are going to do if this is the person of your dreams and you want to stay all night!