It can be all too easy to be tied up in knots on a first date and not be yourself. And, after all, it is the real you that you want your new friend to like. With being yourself in mind don’t be afraid to do these things on a first date.
Be Yourself and Don’t Tell Fibs
I just love the Harry Potter stories says your new friend. Because you want him or her to like you it can be all too easy to say that you love the books and movies as well, even though you have never read any of the books or watched any of the movies. A better choice than trying to fake it is to admit that you really don’t know anything about the series. But, you can say, tell me about them. That lets your new friend show off what he or she knows about the stories and gives you a little insight into what he or she likes. After all getting to know him, or her is what it is all about. The same thought applies to your new friend being a soccer fan or enjoying playing chess.
Be Yourself and Eat What You Want
There is a tendency, especially on the part of women, to eat sparingly on a first date so as not to appear to be a glutton. There is also a tendency to avoid difficult to eat foods. Forget that. Be yourself and eat what you want. Starting out by being honest means that you do not need to backtrack later. The one good rule of thumb is when the other person is paying not to order the most expensive thing on the menu. Your new friend may not be trying to have a cheap first date but if you run the bill up too high you might not get a call back.
Ask Questions and Listen
One of the goals of a first date is to find out what makes the other person tick. If you like what you see and hear you will want more and if there are warning signs you can head for the door early. The point is to ask questions and listen. What do you do for a living gets you a quick answer but what do you do in your spare time or what do you really like to do tend to help draw the person out. Don’t be afraid to ask questions on the first date.
Dress for the Occasion within Reason
If you don’t do well in high heels don’t wear them. If you do not fill out a muscle shirt avoid them. For casual first dates dress normally but in clean clothes, ideally wrinkle free. Obviously if you are looking for a hot first date you may wish to modify this approach but that can be done by wearing a cover up which can be removed if the time is right.
A bright smile, a suggestive glance, and revealing garments can lead the way to a hot first date. Because of the chance that the first date will be a disappointment a women may want to wear a jacket over her revealing dress. If the encounter does not promise to be a hot first the date the jacket stays in place. If things become interesting you can ask him to please help you remove your jacket with the implication that you would like him to remove what little else you are wearing as well!
Don’t be afraid to go after what you want on a first date but keep your wits about you and don’t miss out on a nice relationship by pushing too hard right away.
Sometimes the conversation starts and you get into real issues. Since you want to get to know this person, don’t avoid asking and answering the real questions. After all it is communication that leads to solid and lasting relationships. On the other hand if you are feeling like you are being pushed into a corner and feeling uncomfortable stop the conversation or just get up and leave. Abuse should not be part of the first or any date.