When looking for someone to spend your life with remember that communication leads to lasting relationships. Communication is important in finding that special someone and in avoiding or dealing with conflict. Communication leads to lasting relationships because it makes life with that special someone more fulfilling and enjoyable.
The person you met on the internet may be attractive and even wealthy. But, does he or she talk to you? Is he or she funny? When he or she does talk is it in communication or complaints, orders, and/or boring details of the past that you hear? Communication is a two way street. Give and take are the basics of good communication. When looking for someone to spend your life with look for a person who talks to you and listens to you, not someone who lectures or talks as though you were not there.
Every relationship has it high points and its low points. Talking about issues that affect your relationship goes a long way towards resolving those differences. Hurt feelings smolder if not voiced. Sharp retorts only serve to make your partner angry. They do not solve anything. Communication leads to lasting relationships because communication helps you and your partner identify differences and find answers to your problems. Communication regarding differences is not finding fault and it is not fighting. Communication is saying what you think the facts are and saying how the situation makes you feel. Then communication is listening to your partner tell his or her side of the story and how the situation makes him feel. Communication in a relationship should lead to better understanding and it should lead to empathy.
Good communication leads to lasting relationships and good communication also results in a satisfying and happy relationship. Couples that communicate don’t hold grudges. Couples that communicate well avoid fights. Relationships with good communication are relationships without physical or verbal abuse. If a person is looking for a long term, satisfying relationship he or she will want to work on communication skills, both talking and listening.
Communication comes easier if both of you are relaxed. If you have something to discuss find a place and time where neither of you is under pressure. Communication comes easier if the mood is happy. Tell a funny anecdote about your day or a joke you just heard. Think about what makes your partner happy and do it whether that is bringing flowers or making a favorite meal. Sometimes a kind gesture is as important as what you have to say. And listen. Listen to what our partner says and what he or she does not say. A person who is hurting may not know how to express how he or she feels and may just not say anything. Silence says a lot.
Communication leads to lasting relationships when we use communication to find the right person. Communication leads to lasting relationships when we communicate at times of stress and it gives us long term joy when we really know our partner and when he or she really knows us.