¿Te acuerdas de ese chico de la secundaria con la espalda tan peluda? Probablemente lo llamaban “hombre lobo” o “yeti” y no haya tenido más remedio que aprender el arte de la depilación masculina a una edad temprana (o puede ser que haya sufrido tanto de las burlas de los otros chicos en los vestidores que haya adoptado una vida de reclusión y ni se haya molestado).

Ahora que eres mayor y tu cuerpo produce más testosterona que cuando tratabas de meterte a las películas para adultos, el tema de la pilosidad corporal no te hace mucha gracia. Afeitarse o no –y en donde– es una decisión completamente personal. Pero el look limpio es el que definitivamente tiene más éxito entre los jóvenes.

“Rasurase es algo que va y viene con la moda”, dice Danielle Malka, CEO de êShave, una comercializadora de productos para el afeitado. “Solo basta con fijarse en los anuncios de las revistas y verás que los hombres tienen una piel perfecta y el único pelo que tienen es el de la cabeza”.

Lograr un afeitado corporal perfecto, sin cortes o vellos encarnados, implica estrategias un tanto diferentes a las del afeitado facial. Aquí, Malka nos da consejos para eliminar todos los vellos, hasta llegar a los de la ingle, en donde a veces se dificulta ver al león entre tanta maleza.

Si decides ignorar estás información, es bajo tu propio riesgo mi querido “lobito”.

En cualquier parte
Siempre aféitate después de ducharte para que la piel y el vello estén suaves, pero antes corta con tijeras los vellos largos. Al final, aplica una loción o crema para después de afeitar para evitar la irritación.

Axilas
Primero corta lo más puedas el vello. Y siempre recuerda la regla de oro del afeitado: no presiones la maquinita de afeitar contra la piel. Para evitar cortes y vellos encarnados sólo deslízala suavemente por la piel. Cuando hayas terminado, evita por un tiempo los desodorantes que contengan alcohol, porque causan irritación.

Pecho
“Cuando las mujeres se afeitan las piernas pueden hacerlo en el sentido contrario del crecimiento del vello porque la piel de la zona es bastante resistente”, dice Malka, “pero en cualquier otra parte del cuerpo es conveniente hacerlo en el sentido del crecimiento del vello”. En el pecho, esto quiere decir afeitarte para abajo, excepto alrededor de los pezones: es una zona que requiere especial cuidado, en la que hay que afeitar el vello siguiendo su dirección para evitar cortar la piel más oscura. Un hombre sin pezones atraerá todas las miradas en la playa, pero no creo que quieras este tipo de atención.

Espalda
“Alguien más debe afeitarte esta zona. Aunque seas flexible, es una tarea bastante difícil como para hacerla solo”, dice Malka. Más allá de eso, no es muy difícil. Solo tienes que seguir los consejos anteriores (afeitar en la dirección del crecimiento del vello, dejar que la maquinita se deslice, etc.). Solo te doy un pequeño consejo: no le pidas a una chica que te afeite la espalda en la primera cita.

Ingle
“La piel de esta zona es más suave que la del rostro y el cuello, pero el vello es más grueso, así que ten cuidado especial”, dice Malka. Una vez más, corta los vellos largos primero. Luego, estirando la piel, aféitala con toques ligeros utilizando una maquinita de afeitar nueva. Este último consejo es especialmente importante cuando se trata de eliminar el vello de la zona de los testículos. Realmente no existe demasiado peligro de dañar una vena o cortarte algo en esta zona tan delicada.

Pero ten cuidado porque puedes cortarte si no eres lo suficientemente meticuloso. “Cuando hayas terminado, utiliza una crema humectante ya que, de lo contrario, la zona que hayas afeitado te provocará comezón… y no querrás estar rascándote todo el día, menos en la ingle”.

Greg Melville ha trabajado como editor para Men’s Journal y ha escrito acerca de belleza para numerosas publicaciones, incluyendo Men’s Health.

Cuando uno es joven, los amigos son lo más importante. A medida que vamos creciendo, las personas van cambiando y las responsabilidades familiares y laborales demandan más tiempo y atención y, por eso, no es raro perder contacto con los amigos.

“Durante la mediana edad, las vidas de las mujeres están particularmente cargadas de actividades”, explica la Dra. Irene Levine, profesora de psiquiatría de la Universidad de New York y autora de Best Friends Forever: Surviving a Breakup with Your Best Friend. “Pero es importante tener amistades con las que uno pueda contar porque esto reduce el estrés, la presión sanguínea y el riesgo de depresión”. Además, los amigos le ponen un toque de diversión a la vida.

Ten en cuenta las siguientes estrategias para saber cómo buscar y desarrollar amistades que valgan la pena. Sólo se requiere un poco de esfuerzo extra pero lo que ganarás no tiene precio.

1. Participa más en los grupos en los que participes.

Trata de ganar más espacio en los grupos que ya tienes formados. Por ejemplo, en lugar de mirar los juegos de fútbol junto a otros 30 padres, conviértete en un miembro de la junta de la liga. O encabeza un subcomité para la Asociación de padres y maestros (PTA). “Así lograrás relacionarte con más frecuencia y mayor profundidad con las personas que ya conoces”, dice Levine. Esto permite que las amistades se desarrollen naturalmente.

2. Gana una nueva amiga.

Cuando encuentres a alguien con quien te lleves bien, debes regar la planta de la amistad un poco todos los días, que florezca. “Muestra tu verdadero yo despacio, y espera a que ella haga lo mismo”, recomienda Levine. Vayan a tomar café juntas y comiencen hablando de sus procedencias o sus intereses. Resiste la tentación de contar toda tu vida de un soplido. Si abrumas a tu nueva amistad, puede que sólo consigas que se aleje de ti.

3. Intégrate a un grupo.

Si no formas parte de ningún círculo social establecido, intentar ingresar a uno puede llegar a ser desalentador. La solución: Desarrolla una relación más cercana con una persona a la vez. Una vez que la amistad fluya, tu amiga puede involucrarte más en el grupo.

4. Mantente abierta a nuevas amistades.

“Puede sonar medio tonto, pero la mayoría de las amistades nacen de una sonrisa y una actitud sociable”, dice Levine. Eso implica conversar con las personas siempre que puedas, ya sea en el ascensor de la oficina, la piscina, mientras alientas a tu hijo en un juego… “Si actúas de forma amigable y le muestras a las personas que estás interesada en ellos, algunos morderán tu anzuelo”, agrega.

5. Cultiva nuevas conexiones.

Una vez que hayas hecho una amiga, haz que sea tu prioridad reservando tiempo para estar con ella. Si simplemente estás muy ocupada, no te sientas obligada a cumplir con lo que prometiste, simplemente busca otra opción para encontrarte con ella, como puede ser cortarse el cabello juntas y luego ir a tomar un café. Sincronizar cosas que uno no puede dejar de hacer, garantiza un tiempo a solas con tu amiga sin sobrecargar tu agenda. También recuerda que no siempre es necesario encontrarse personalmente. Intenta otros modos de estar en contacto, como Facebook, mensajes de texto y llamadas cortas, dice Levine.

Y nunca pienses que el tiempo que le dedicas a tus
amigas es tiempo perdido con tu familia, porque invertir tu tiempo en amistades
es bueno para ti y para todos. “Los amigos nos ayudan a relajarnos y a mantener
la vida en perspectiva” dice Levine. Esos momentos de “egoísmo” recargan el
alma y eso te hará ser una mejor madre, esposa, hija y hermana.

Divorce often means falling apart emotionally for some time and discovering when it is tad to commence dating once again can be difficult. Understanding when you are keen and what you need in a relationship is really how is necessary before dating should begin. How long this takes does not really issue – it might be a year, it could be 3 years. Each person is different.

Emotionally Ready to Start Dating?

Knowing if one is emotionally ready is the biggest, and hardest, part of beginning to date again. There are a few questions that should be asked in order to understand this. These questions require honest, deep self reflection.

1. How would you feel about seeing someone if you ran into your ex while out with that new person?
2. How would you feel if you ran into your ex while your ex was on a date?
3. What input do you get from your friends about you being ready to date again? Ask them to be honest!
4. Are you 100% comfortable if you ran into friends or relatives (yours or your ex’s) while on a date?

If the answers to these questions are all positive then the chances are that you are emotionally ready to start dating again. But there is more!

Understanding What You Need in a New Relationship

Fro some people when they start dating all they need is something light, casual and no commitments. Others need a certain amount of security fairly quickly – like within the first couple of months of dating. After a divorce there might be some fears surrounding these issues, and one should really examine what is needed psychologically and emotionally. For most people new to dating after divorce there should be no rush to start a serious relationship again. It’s usually best to take things slow and see how each person feels. There will be moments when a divorced person can have breakdowns, even years after the divorce. And it takes a strong and emotionally evolved person to understand that. Far too many people rush into a new, committed relationship within a couple of years after a divorce, seeking that comfort that was had before. Is it worth it? A lot of self reflection should be done beforehand.

A casual relationship is often what most people need to start with. This is relaxed, someone who can be a friend (and maybe lover), and with whom it is understood that there are not going to be any quick commitments. And if this relationship only lasts a couple of months or so, then there is less likelihood of anyone getting hurt. And if it ends up developing into something more, then so be it.

If one decides on pursuing a serious relationship, then be sure to list all of the qualities that you are looking for in a partner and take your time to really get to know that other person. Lists are great. But grading isn’t! Sometimes the best love in the world doesn’t have the qualities that one originally thought they might. That’s okay! Just be ready to be open-minded and with an open heart! And remember that communication is the most important aspect of maintaining a good relationship. Start taking actions to change your social life forever!

Getting to know your way around online dating sites can be frustrating and overwhelming, at first. There is so much to learn and what you do will have an impact on how well you will be received. In order to be successful there are 10 important steps with online dating that must be followed. Consider this your online dating checklist.

Do a simple internet search and see how many dating sites there are to choose from. Take a look at a few different ones. Think about what your needs are. Are you someone over forty? Are you very religious? There is going to be a site that can help you find exactly what you are looking for.

After you pick your dating site you must join. This is the fun part. You will need to choose a user name. This is going to be your hello. Your user name is the first thing people will see, after your picture. You will be judged by your user name. So, do not just put the first thing that comes to your mind. Imagine you are going to an interview. You would not just wake up and throw on jeans and a shirt would you? The same attitude applies here.

Once you have your user name there is the matter of filling out your profile. There will be a lot of questions. Some of them are just checking a box, but there are others that give you an opportunity to talk about yourself. You need to fill out everything completely.

Be honest. If you were previously married let it be known. Do not mislead a person into thinking you have never been married because then when they find out you have they will lose interest. If a person is not interested in dating someone who has been married before then they will not choose you, but that is a person that you would not want to date anyway.

At some point during this process you will have to choose a headline for your profile. Make sure that it is an attention grabber. Choose a few words to say something good about yourself and what you seek. Try to be unique.

Upload a photograph of yourself. Not just one. Put as many pictures as you can. All of your pictures should be less than a year old. Do not post professional pictures. If you are a woman looking for a man, do not pick pictures that show you with men. Same applies for men. That is tacky.

Do not forget to spell check everything you write. For some people that is a deal breaker. If possible, ask a close friend to review it. Then hit submit and you are ready to browse.

Browse by your interests. All dating websites have many options to help narrow down the list of potential dates. So, if you are not willing to drive an hour to meet someone make sure you choose what distance is comfortable for you. Then start looking through the list of people. If someone sparks your interest, read their profile.

A lot of sites will let a person know who has viewed their profile. So, if you read a profile and are interested, make contact. Many sites let you make some form of contact without writing an e-mail. It is referred to as flirting. This will let a person know you are interested. If they flirt back you have the green light to move on to the next step.

You should send a message to anyone that you are interested in. Make sure you read their profile first. When you write your message make a point or two about things you liked in their profile. Then you want to write something of interest about yourself. Keep it simple the first time. Make each message you write cater to that person. Be genuine.

When you have a good vibe from someone that you have shared a few messages with do not hesitate. Ask for their phone number. You have to strike while the iron is hot. Remember you are not the only person contacting him or her. If you wait you might lose them to someone else who did not wait.

Be active every day. If a person does not reply that you are really interested in do not get deflated. You must move on. This is online dating. You have hundreds of other people to contact. So, delete them from your profile and check out someone else. The more active you are the more your profile will be seen by others.

Online dating is becoming a popular way to meet people. The key is having a great profile that stands out. Remember, what you write will say a lot about who you are. Make sure to follow the above steps and you will be successful.

The difference between dating and relationships can easily be misunderstood by one or both people who have been ‘hanging out’ for a period of time. It’s a good idea to become familiar with the different stages which can lead to a relationship.

Although the initial stages of dating have the potential to develop into a relationship, in reality, the two scenarios are very different. Dating can be interpreted in various forms including a one night stand, regular casual dating or a fling to convenience one or either person, or mutual regular dating which can take a genuine turn for something more substantial. Any form of dating is great and doing things for your new friend that they enjoy is just plain fun and exciting, but what about when he or she starts wanting more?

There’s not a lot that is more exciting and entertaining than meeting someone new. When you enter the world of online dating or offline dating you are paving the way to change the direction of life as you know it. If your existing social network has limited options for meeting new people, try free dating sites and singles chat rooms – everyone’s doing it!

Having something to look forward to gives us hope and inspiration, and nothing achieves this better than by dating someone who makes your heart beat a little faster then usual. This is very much a time for preparation and the first few days, weeks and months will see you make certain long term and short term decisions about the person you’re dating. Knowing why you are dating someone is a good head space to be in. Is it for an ego kick, loneliness, dating on the rebound, or perhaps you are simply sowing your wild oats and not ready to settle down.

The initial feelings of romance, intimacy, love, lust, hours on the phone and sleepless nights are overwhelming. At this point it’s easy for a couple to fall into a relationship before they are ready to do so. This is very typical of young love which is okay, it’s just one of the many life journeys young adults will encounter.

If the tell tale signs are there that your romance is developing into something more serious, now is a great time to get some perspective from a friend or family member – someone who is not emotionally involved and can give you practical advice.

Before you make the big decision of commitment and giving your heart away, make certain that you are confident this person will be there for support through good times and bad. You need to establish clarity and trust and be confident that any past history regarding ex boyfriends and ex girlfriends remains in the past.

Think of the difference between dating and relationships like complex patterns of tapestry. First there is a picture in mind you are threading. This leads to complicated, enigmatical, deep, cryptical and incomprehensible visions of euphoria but at the end of it all, it’s all about having fun and finding love so just take it a step at a time!

The whole concept of speed dating is to make an appealing impression with multiple people in a short space of time. As a successful speed dater, you need to charm ten people in sixty minutes (six minutes per date). Asking the right questions when speed dating is the key to keeping the conversation flowing and gaining your dates interest.

The build up to the event usually produces quite a bit of anticipation, however it’s essential you keep a casual and relaxed outlook about the whole idea and try not to hold too many expectations about finding ‘the one’ straight away. Speed dating is a great alternative to meeting people through online dating sites. A number of speed dating events are often organized through singles dating sites and it’s pretty common to meet people on the night of the event that you may have already chatted to through one of the various free dating sites.

The following is a list of questions to find out how well you may relate to others and how they react to topics which are important for you in a potential partner. Make sure you speak with conviction and confidence, this in itself is a very attractive characteristic.

1. What are you hoping to achieve from tonight?
2. Do you believe in love at first sight?
3. What is your most precious possession?
4. Which season of the year do you prefer?
5. Are you a believer in reincarnation?
6. Is there anything that stands out in your mind that you would like me to know about you?
7. What kind of relationship are you looking for, casual or long term?
8. Have you been single for a while and how long was the longest relationship you had?
9. What would be your dream job?
10. What about music, who is your favorite musician?
11. What kind of work do you do?

Not all these questions will send the right message to everyone. Some people may think it’s a little forward too soon, however there is every chance you will appeal to a number of your dates with this approach and will send a message that you are a no nonsense person with a clear direction in life.

The whole idea of speed dating is to get to know as much about your ten dates in the six minutes allocated to each date. By taking a forward and decisive approach, you definitely up the stakes in finding compatible people at the end of the night.

What’s so special about Internet dating?

An Introduction

If you’ve surfed the Internet for longer than about two minutes then you won’t have the missed the numerous Internet dating adverts that seem to be cropping up everywhere. Whether on pop-ups or ad banners, Internet dating is a huge phenomenon all around the world and it’s not just in the minds of the
webmasters. There wouldn’t be so many Internet dating sites if there weren’t a demand for it; we’re going to point out the many pros there are to Internet dating and why so many people are trying it and coming back for more over and over again.

Reach Around the World

A cursory glance around Internet dating sites will reveal that you’re much likely to be talking to someone from the other side of the world than from your own town. How many pubs and restaurants can offer such a wide variety of people who all have a similar goal on their mind? None, in fact, most places you
visit are crammed to the ceiling with couples and families, any potential partners are either already involved or surrounded by hopefuls before they even make it through the door. With Internet dating this is completely different. It’s true that some of the people that are on Internet dating sites may be in relationships but most freely admit it and just want some chat.

Inhibitions

How many of us actually have the nerve to walk up to a member of the opposite sex and start chatting them up without a second thought? And how many of us have the nerve to do it sober? Internet dating removes any shyness and almost all inhibitions and makes chatting to people much easier. You’ll often find some
of the more outgoing personalities are the quietest in the ‘real world’ but they don’t act it when they are Internet dating.

Internet dating acts as a sort of mask that means we lose our inhibitions. We’re not likely to ever see the people we are talking to, so what is there to lose? Nothing. People go on Internet dating sites with one thing on their mind. To meet like-minded people who want to chat and maybe find a little love
in their lives with the right person. They know that through Internet dating the short list of potential partners very soon becomes a long list of funny and intelligent people that are easy to talk to; and there’s never a fear of recrimination.

The Bottom Line on Internet Dating

If there’s one perfect partner for every person in this world, who’s to say that they live five miles down the road and you’re going to meet them when you next pop out for a pint of milk? It’s not that likely, but Internet dating stacks the odds completely in your favor.

Has your online dating friend turned out to be nothing like what you were expecting when you finally met for the first time? If you have decided to take your love hunt online, rule number one – always have an exit strategy ready in case of a first date disaster.

Giving your new friend the brush off is never going to be easy, nevertheless you can take measures to cushion the blow. Rejection is one of the fastest ways to destroy one’s self esteem, which can take many weeks or months to recover from. So if you find yourself on a first date and that elusive “click” is not evident you have no option but to finalize the date and it’s time to be cruel, but kind.

The easiest way to avoid a first date catastrophe is to date intelligently in the first place. Although you may have accumulated various friends through your online dating website, be extremely particular with whom you choose to meet in person. Stop a first date tragedy before it’s too late. Use as many resources as you can to verify your friend is the same person that attracted you to their dating profile in the first place.

The beauty with online dating is that you’re allowed to be ruthless to a certain degree. The pain caused by on online rejection doesn’t even come close compared to a real life face to face rejection. Online dating provides a bottomless pool of online fish in the sea, so it’s much easier to get dumped online, the online dating revolving door is relentless – when one door closes, another opens.

Try saying something like “It’s been great meeting you but I’ll keep looking at some other profiles thanks “. Then simply do not respond to their communications. Making up self-justifications and fake apologies can just leave the other person hanging on – some people can be slower than others.

When someone does gain your interest, check out his/her Facebook page so you can look at more photos of that person and get a further gauge of their personality. Chat with them online in a real time chat session, preferably with a video cam so you can assess them physical and mentally. As you become further acquainted take steps to verify their authenticity by asking to call your new friend at work, or ask for their home phone number – if they are reluctant to hand it out, they are probably married.

In the end, the most useful and gracious way of giving your internet dating friend the brush off is to use a little tactfulness and honesty. Too much tactfulness, however, and he or she might not get the hint. Try to be up front in a positive way that doesn’t demoralize them. Keep it simple, to the point, then move on.

Record amounts of singles are logging onto free online dating sites this Xmas and new years vacation period. Data collected from an Australian online dating site attributes the spike in these “Christmas dating” memberships to the worldwide recession and economic doubtfulness.

A majority of members who have joined free online dating sites have signaled in a new public opinion poll that a dubious future on numerous fronts have made them re-arrange their lifetime priorities.

Attaining a permanent relationship, as opposed to merely encountering a good time was on many singles schedules for this Christmas dating vacation period, and with the offering of free dating sites, there is little question as to why so many singles are taking on this option which can be found easily by searching on the internet.

A slump in business at common city bars and nightspots signal that young singles are looking for options such as online dating sites and chat rooms this holiday time of year as a way of economizing their money. There is with no uncertainty that young people are jointly concerned about their futures and are turning to each other for respite.

More and more, the internet is viewed as a means for dejected singles to assembled in chat rooms and chat sites. Free online dating sites have seen their website traffic grow by about 300% over the past two weeks, which constitutes growth of more than 200% compared with the equivalent period of time in previous years.

A combination of work uncertainness, financial severity, shaky international leadership and with additional hard times hovering, looks to be driving singles and free online dating search engine traffic well beyond the norm.

Some other fascinating statistics that have developed from the poll information is that out of the newest 1000 members who have signed on to the various online dating sites, 718 of them have not utilized online dating sites before. This genuine information lays to rest conjecture that online dating sites are losing customers.

In a multiple choice study supplied to 60 female members, 51 of these members suggested that safety constituted the primary reason for converting to the internet to find their better halves as opposed to hazarding their fortune at a populace and oftentimes unsafe city locale. The majority of singles over the age of 28 who utilized online dating sites determined that getting together with new singles through their present friends was hard as virtually all were in attached relationships.

Free online dating sites usually take approximately 3 minutes to register and members can begin emailing other singles immediately. The genuine free dating sites will at no time ask you for your credit card, or to pay a membership. Many free dating sites offer advanced features such as visibility pairing, public and non public chat rooms, web cam chat and instantaneous file and photograph exchange.

Reputable dating sites will often be able to provide lots of selective information and useful articles to aid those who are brand-new to online dating sites and may seek advice in developing their profile. Client services can usually be obtained via email for any queries associating with joining up.

What should you do if you’re dating on a budget and have somebody special that you want to impress? One thing many men don’t realize is that not all women are materialistic and require to be treated to high class restaurants for a meal or to a weekly movie. Naturally, some of the time they’ve not been educated in the art of picking out an affordable spot in which to pass the time. Some men are too overly proud to accept they don’t hold the fiscal means to spend much more than $50 weekly for dinner. Whilst a costly dinner may be significant if it’s a first date or the start a relationship, there’s no need to fear the thought of not being able to spend a great deal of cash because of other responsibilities.

One thing that is happening more frequently these days with men and women supporting full-time occupations is sharing the price of the date. You can decide to break the bill in half every time you go out or you could decide to take turns handling the bill. There are a lot of men who nevertheless consider they had better pay the full price of the date, which is all right for an informal dating night. Nevertheless, once you take the next step and become a pair, there’s no reason you can’t divvy up the price of going out, particularly if both of you work and earn a fairly respectable salary. If you consider your friends, you’ll likely determine that almost all of them portion out dating costs, particularly when the relationship achieves the point where they spend nighttimes at each other’s houses or move in together.

Although dating on a budget,  you  still need something to do together to keep the relationship fresh, bundling a picnic lunch and heading to the park is a great idea. This is particularly good in the springtime while the leaves are beginning to turn green and the flowers are starting to bloom. You’ve been cooped up inside all winter, so right away you have a chance to get outside and relish the warm air and sunlight. If you’re a motorcycle enthusiast, a ride merely for the playfulness factor is a great way to spend some time with your date and not spend very much money. Even a tankful of gas is relatively low in most situations.

If you and your date have common friends, you might want to choose a night and just hang out with them. Perhaps contribute for a pizza or if it’s warm weather, crank up the barbeque and create it a nice dinner party alfresco style. If there is a swimming pool, make it a pool party! For cooler weather, take the initiative and cook a pleasant meal for your date and rent a movie at home.

There are a whole lot of activities you can do while dating on a budget without expending your whole paycheck for an enjoyable evening in or on the town. Never presume your date anticipates you to spend a great deal of cash on her each time you head out. Virtually all females in reality favor simple things, even a stroll in the park or on the beach.

For singles dating on a budget, have you ever tried internet dating? You are doing yourself a huge disservice by not considering online dating sites as a real and very popular alternative means to chat with and meet other singles. There are dozens of free online dating sites and free online chat rooms available on the internet. For singles looking to find their soulmate or just new friends, free internet dating sites provide their members with the opportunity to expand their singles social circle without any cost involved.

If you’re feeling a little shy, start with online dating sites. There are 100′s of 1000′s of singles online each and every day!